dandelion salad's an ass as is the writer rocket. the writer rocket is trying to leave comments at the common ills back up site. you can't. keesha long ago killed the comments (as she noted in 2004, the person attacked in comments would be a black person - when that happened, we shut down comments community wide. since then, some community bloggers of color have allowed comments at their site to show the kind of racist crap bloggers of color have to put up with.)
so at last count, rocket tried to leave 4 comments (comments do not post to the back up site, the public e-mail account of the common ills receives an e-mail for each attempted comment).
and reading over them, i'm glad i followed c.i.'s advice ('read them once, walk away from the computer, come back in an hour and read them again'). otherwise, i would've gotten in a back and forth with rocket.
why the hell would i get in a back and forth with rocket?
why the hell would i debate him. forget for a moment that - yet again - a man's contacting c.i. about something i wrote instead of contacting me. you kow how i loooooveee that.
but forget it for a moment and ask yourself: why the hell should rebecca debate rocket?
i am a woman who has been pregnant countless times. unlike rocket. i had an abortion late in life. unlike rocket. prior to that, i had always miscarried. unlike rocket. i gave birth a little while back to a beatuiful daughter. unlike rocket.
rocket's like a nun wanting to teach you about sex, he doesn't know what he's talking about.
by contrast, this is something i actually know about.
i know the heart ache and loss you feel when you miscarry. i know that when you do it repeatedly, you can (i did) get very angry at even your closest friends because they have children and their children growing up. i love c.i.'s kids and never begrudged them a thing but there were times - and c.i. knows this and understands it - when i would get very angry at her because she had children and i didn't.
it wasn't fair to c.i. it certainly wasn't 'logical' but it is what i went through.
my marriage to fly boy broke up.
not because of the abortion.
it broke up in part because of the heart ache we both felt.
i've written about this before (and my in-laws would prefer i not write about it but this is my blog - i did check with fly boy just now and he said, 'write what you want' - thank you, sweetie). i was so excited to be pregnant - like i always am.
and this 1 appeared to be progressing better. no warnings. no fears. and then the doctor wanted additional tests and i just assumed we were testing to see about miscarriage likelihood or something. no. he had found something, a problem. he tested it and confirmed it.
if i'd given birth, our child would have been born with a condition which would have required immediate surgery, many more surgeries, and the chances of making it to adulthood not at all likely. so i wanted to have a baby and suffered through more miscarriages than i care to admit to. and then i get pregnant and the fetus isn't healthy, is very unhealthy.
and the issue wasn't money. i'd already made a tidy sum and fly boy had his money (he was born rich and he had also made money working) (i was not born rich). if it was a special needs child, i would've given it all the love i had in my body. we could have had improvements made to our home to make it more accessible.
but that wasn't what we were dealing with.
what we were dealing with was a child who would have to have multiple operations throughout their lifetime and their expected lifetime would not include adulthood.
and i had to make the decision.
fly boy told me he'd support whatever i decided.
and i love him for that and i was angry with him for that at the time.
because that put it all on me.
and i wanted the baby. i wanted to give birth. and i wanted to hold my baby and love him and spend whatever time we had. that's what i wanted.
but what i had to ask myself was: how fair was it to bring a child into this world who was going to immediately require 1 surgery after another, who was going to be in pain throughout and whose condition had a prognosis that didn't lead to adulthood. (i'm not a doctor, if i worded that wrong, i'm sorry, i'm especially concerned about every thing after 'and' in the last sentence. but the condition did not allow most to survive to adulthood, if that clears it up.)
so i took what i wanted and weighed it against what i would be putting a chidl through. it was a very difficult decision. i couldn't put my baby through that pain.
i chose an abortion and it was the right choice.
i know that and i've always known that.
i've cursed and cried over the condition the child would have had. but i've never doubted the decision i made beccause i discussed it with every 1 at the time. (c.i. and elaine held my hands for basically a full week, they flew in immediately and they listened to me over and over as i changed my mind to this and to that and they never got frustrated or said 'i need a break.' day after day as i wrestled with the decision, they were there for me.) i talked to my doctor, i talked to a therapist i met with just about this issue, i talked to my pastor at our family church, i talked to my mother, my father, my grandmother, every 1.
when rocket's gone through that, he can lecture me about abortion.
when he's lived 1/2 of what i went through just on that 1 pregnancy, he can offer me an informed opinion.
until then, he can do the world a favor and shut the hell up.
if you're new to my site, what followed was that fly boy and i began seeing each other a little while after our divorce (c.i. played matchmaker). and then i thought i was in the phase where i didn't have to worry about pregnant. but ended up pregnant at my age. and miscarried. and cried and cried. and went back to c.i.'s with her and stayed at her place for weeks and weeks. and then a little while later, i ended up pregnant again.
shocking every 1.
i was supposed to get my tubes tied. but what was the point? i figured i wouldn't get pregnant again. i figured that time had passed. and then i ended up pregnant again.
and i had doctors round the clock and i went on bed rest. and fly boy would get on the computer and i would dictate my posts to him. and i was doing everything and then some trying not to miscarry. and, happy ending, we have a beautiful daughter.
but i know about pregnancy and i know about miscarriages and i know about abortion and i know about birth. 1st hand.
rocket knows none of that and really needs to shut the hell up.
his sources, by the way, are for outlawing all abortion - even in the cases of rape and incest. he can kiss my ass.
and, yes, dandelion salad is promoting lies about abortion and they are sick and disgusting and they need to take a hard look at themselves.
let's close with c.i.'s 'Iraq snapshot:'
That's before you get into the power-grab Nouri's currently attempting. People's Daily Online reports (link has text and audio), "The Iraqi parliament warned that a court ruling of linking the central bank, election commissions and other independent bodies to the cabinet is a threat to the country 's democracy and overseas savings, an official news paper said on Wednesday."
In a month that's not yet ended but has already seen more spectacular bombings than Iraq's seen in one month in a long, long time, even though the death toll for this (ongoing) month has already passed the official toll for last month, Barack wanted to stand up last night and insist that violence was down.
We've heard this sort of lying before from George W. Bush. Barack only demonstrated last night that he was worse than even Bush. Congratulations to the White House for that proud moment. NPR analyzed the speech, Tom Gjelten taking the Iraq and Afghanistan part, "But the level of violence in Iraq remains high, and the seeds of renewed sectarian strife and political instability have been planted with the return to Iraq of Moqtada al-Sadr, whose Iran-backed Shiite militia was responsible for much anti-Sunni violence in earlier years."
Progress insisted Barack but Walter Pincus (Washington Post) reports this morning:
A top U.S. oversight office has recommended that the United States halt further funding for a $26 million education academy for senior Iraqi security officials after discovering that the Iraqi government had never agreed to operate or maintain the facility.
The United States has spent more than $13 million on the project.
Barack declared, "Look to Iraq, where nearly 100,000 of our brave men and women have left with their heads held high; where American combat patrols have ended; violence has come down; and a new government has been formed. This year, our civilians will forge a lasting partnership with the Iraqi people, while we finish the job of bringing our troops out of Iraq. America's commitment has been kept; the Iraq War is coming to an end." And ignored that he is actively seeking an extension to the SOFA and that the back up plan is to switch the military over to the US diplomatic staff in Iraq and call that a 'pullout.'
Military Families Speak Out weighs in on the speech by noting:
President Obama stated that troops would start coming home from Afghanistan this July, but Pat Alviso, who's son is currently serving in Afghanistan, asks: "The withdrawal may start in July, but when will it end? My son is in Afghanistan now, and almost 30,000 more troops are scheduled to deploy before July. When will they come home?" She continued, "If President Obama, wants to keep his promise of 'shaping a world that favors peace and prosperity,' he needs to bring my son and all the troops home now -- and take care of them when they get here."
The president also made sweeping promises about improving education, health care, clean energy, and creating jobs. However, at the same time he is proposing a 5-year freeze in domestic spending, with only minor cuts to the military budget. "My community is suffering from cuts to health care, failing schools, and a rising unemployment rate. My husband was discharged from the Army in Nov. 2010. He is 75% disabled now and just had his 3rd operation. He is not able to work. His unemployment benefits have been cut, and his disability pay does not cover our expenses. I am working full time, but can not make ends meet." said MFSO member Tammara Rosenleaf from Montana. "Congress and the President may clap to show their gratitude, but I'd rather be able to actually pay my bills."
Members of Military Families Speak Out and Gold Star Families Speak Out are available for interviews about the State of the Union. If you are looking for a family with a specific story, please contact Samantha Miller, MFSO's Communications Coordinator -- Samantha@mfso.org or 818-419-6994
Speaking for the Libertarian Party, its executive director, Wes Benedict stated (link has text and video) the following:
Two former cabinet secretaries – the country's most senior civil servants – mounted a devastating critique of the way Blair handled the run-up to war. The cabinet were trapped in a position where they had to agree to attack Iraq or bring down the prime minister, the inquiry heard.
Today's witnesses disputed Blair's claim to the inquiry last Friday that cabinet ministers might not have seen official papers but would have known about plans from the media. "None of those key [Whitehall] papers were presented to the cabinet so I do not accept the former prime minister's claim they knew the score ... That isn't borne out by what actually happened," said Lord Turnbull, then cabinet secretary.
Alex Barker (Financial Times of London) observes Turnbull testified that the Cabinet was denied "key documents" and the cabinet did not realize "the likelihood of military action against Iraq" in 2002. AFP reports that Lauren Booth, Blair's sister-in-law, has weighed in that Tony Blair is a War Criminal:
Asked whether Blair should be arrested and sent to the International Court of Justice in The Hague for war crimes, Booth replied: "Absolutely. He misled the British people and took Britain to war on a lie."
The conflict in Iraq was "an offence", she told reporters after a speech at a Malaysian university, saying it was organised well in advance between Blair and the United States leadership.
Booth has been a vocal opponent of the war in Iraq, and a supporter of the Palestinian cause, and in 2008 travelled with other activists to Gaza by ship to protest against Israel's blockade of the territory.
iraq veterans against the war
the financial times of london