Eight years ago, during Schwarzenegger's 2003 campaign for governor, women came forward to say he had groped and sexually abused them on the set. Shriver stood behind his staunch denials and went further. She applauded his character and went on the attack against his accusers.
Imagine how these women felt. First they went through the degradation of being groped and sexually abused by Schwarzenegger and then, with help from Shriver's deflections, they suffered the humiliation of being pegged a liar.
What Shriver did seven years ago in standing up for her husband was wrong. Her behavior perpetuates a social code that protects predators and undermines women who try and do stand up against abuse.
What if Shriver had stepped up and confronted her husband? There could have been severe consequences. He could have lost the election. She could have been excoriated by her husband's backers.
By this time, however, her family's healing could be much further along. And Californians might have had a different governor.that's from sandra kobrin's 'political wives "tipper point" is way too late' (women's enews).
and good for kobrin for saying it.
i'm so tired of this b.s. of 'she's a victim!'
no, sometimes the women who are publicly humiliated are also the aggressors. maria was when she attacked those women who came forward. elizabeth edwards was when she attacked hillary.
and kobrin's correct that this is a role that a lot of women gladly play.
if you play a role, you can get trapped in it. if that happens, you need to be asking yourself how you got there now how you can push the blame off onto some 1 else.
i don't justify what arnold or john edwards did. i'm not interested in them. they're pigs. but the women they were married to didn't have to be.
let's close with c.i.'s 'Iraq snapshot:'