11/10/2005

hanging out with a friend

starting late because t called me this afternoon to say she never sees me lately and so i went into the city to visit.

i'm not 1 of those women who dumps her friends because she's going out with some guy. but my saturdays are usually focused on the third estate sunday review and last week, we (my ex, mike, mike's mother, elaine and i) went to nyc for the world can't wait rally there. so i've been busy and am fortunate to have friends who will say, 'i don't see you anymore.'

t and i hung out her place listening to music, fooling around on the internet and just having fun.

1 think i found out is that my site is worthless.

there's this thing you can go to and put in your web address and it will tell you the value of your site. it's a technorati thing and despite doing tags and putting their code on this page - you can see it on the right - and using their manual ping, they have never registered any of the tags i do.
it's the same way with elaine and cedric too, by the way.

so i don't take it seriously especially with the big kick up in e-mails lately.

but i thought i'd share that because we were laughing about it.

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, sexandpoliticsandscreedsandattitude.blogspot.com/, is worth $0.00

in fact let me do all the community sites.


How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, cedricsbigmix.blogspot.com/, is worth $0.00

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, likemariasaidpaz.blogspot.com/, is worth $0.00

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, thirdestatesundayreview.blogspot.com/, is worth $0.00

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, thedailyjot.blogspot.com/, is worth $0.00

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, sethinthecity.blogspot.com/, is worth $2,258.16

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, katskornerofthecommonills.blogspot.com/, is worth $2,822.70


How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, wwwmikeylikesit.blogspot.com/, is worth $5,080.86
Here's a button you can put on your blog: (the HTML is below)


How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, thomasfriedmanisagreatman.blogspot.com/, is worth $8,468.10

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, thecommonills.blogspot.com/, is worth $20,887.98

so those are the stats.

i'm glad the common ills came out so well but c.i. would be the 1st to laugh at that nonsense.

i'll toss out ron because i think he reached a milestone recently of 100,000 visitors.

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Your blog, whyareweback.blogspot.com/ , is worth $0.00

ron, we better pack it in, we're worthless. as soon as i'm done with my boxes, i'll loan them to you.

i'm joking. atrios also comes out as worth zero and a number of other sites t and i checked on.

obviously ron has visitors. it's a silly thing.

t found it while we were playing around online and we checked my site 1st and burst out laughing.

i think it has to do with whether technorati reads your tags or not and they don't read mine. but it has to have something else as well because betty posts no more than twice a week and mike posts five or six times a week. both of their tags are read by techonrati on their sites.

here's their 'in depth explanation:'

How Much Is My Blog Worth?
Inspired by Tristan Louis's research into the value of each link to Weblogs Inc, I've created this little applet using Technorati's API which computes and displays your blog's worth using the same link to dollar ratio as the AOL-Weblogs Inc deal.

t and i went through a long list of sites and were about to give up because every 1 was coming up as zero when t said 'check the common ills' so we did and were happy that it was judged as worth something. (seriously, c.i. works like crazy - reading and answering e-mails and also posting which sometimes requires dictating them over the phone. c.i. hasn't missed a day and it's almost the first year anniversary of that site.)

but it's meaningless.

t had the new wallflowers cd (she's just moved in a new lover) and i didn't even know the wallflowers had a new cd out.

so we were just foolling around on the net and playing music and chatting. a totally frivilous evening is what c.i. would call it if it was c.i.'s evening.

but it's important to let off steam and to catch up with friends and t's 1 of my best friends.

sherry wondered how we met? when t and i met she was with a company i was doing pr for. she was very lively and after i was done with the press campaign, i kept in touch with her. e-mails and quick phone calls. then 1 day we bumped into each other at a bookstore and went out to grab something to eat. i was surprised she was so miserable at her job because she was always full of energy and just so positive. she said that was the company mask.

so we were talking and she mentioned that she'd thought about doing hair when she was 'younger.' i said she wasn't old now and she should go for it. apparently no 1 told her that because after a few minutes of 'no, i'm too old' she started thinking about it. i was her test case throughout beauty school and most of the time it worked out pretty well. when it didn't, i'd just pull it into a pony tail. by the time she got her lic. she was the most gifted stylist i've ever known and that's because she loves doing hair.

i told her about sherry's e-mail and we talked about that tonight.

she said at the company she had worked at, she was always having to figure out whose ass to kiss which day and trying to determine the line of how much input do they really want and how much don't they want. plus she didn't believe in the stuff they were making and didn't feel appreciated.

she likes being her own boss and she cleans up now because she's established and her tip money is so huge. she kept asking if i thought any 1 would find that interesting, i do, and said if i did write about it to put in that if there's any point to her story it's that if you're job's making you miserable and there's something you wish you were doing instead, take a chance and go for it.

i think t has many stories worth telling but i agree that's an important 1.

like a lot of e-mails that come into the site, she asked the question - am i getting back with my ex-husband.

i honestly don't know. we enjoy spending time together. we care about each other. but it's also true that the holidays are bearing down on us and whether that has anything to do with it or not, i don't know.

i'll say 'we're dating' and that's as far as i'll go. actually, i'll go further. we are having sex often.
t asked me why i wasn't talking about hotties lately and i said i'd been busy and trying to focus on some other stuff here. she said good because she was afraid from visiting here and from the few times we've talked on the phone lately that i might be becoming a prude since i hadn't talked about sex in some time. i told her i'd make friday's entry about sex or at least partly which seemed to satisfy her.

a part of me feels like i need to note something in the news tonight. but there's another part of me that says 'no, don't.'

because friends are important and i know i've mentioned t many times here as well as elaine and c.i. and other friends but i don't know that i've ever done an entry that could be seen as just about relaxing with a friend. that's important too.

we basically laughed, ate, drank, listened to music and caught up.

she put on carole king's writer which is a good cd but i told her 'geez, t, are you turning into a white woman!' we laughed at that because she was mainly playing her girlfriend's music. so she pulled out the bootsy collins and, for me, some otis.

the bully boy did come up. it's hard for him not as he destroys our world a little more with each passing day. iraq came up as well.

t's thoughts there are bring the troops home and let iraq get down to the business of self-rule.
she doesn't think that will happen since we're setting up permanent bases, but that was what she thought needed to happen. (and i agree.)

she's reading a cookbook by maya angelou. i had no idea maya had done a cookbook. (it's a little more than your average cookbook.) the food we ate was from the book and if it hadn't been so late when i left, i would've tried to pick up a copy at a bookstore.

and since we were eating food cooked according to maya's instructions, we listened to been found. i don't know how many people know about the cd. it's ashford & simpson with maya.

so that's what i've done this evening and tonight. we were just being silly. like grabbing hairbrushes and singing along with carole king on 'up on the roof.'

and i'm tossing this up quick because it'll be midnight in about 10 minutes and i don't want any 1 to write elaine griping that rebecca didn't blog on 'thursday.'









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